Do I need a Coercive Control Expert Witness? (Part One)
If you have been targeted by a coercive controller, and you’ve done enough research to know that coercive control is the problem you are dealing with, then you probably already know how difficult it can be to explain to professionals what coercive control looks and feels like. Coercive control is a complex and nuanced form […]
Am I the Coercive Controller? Am I the Abuser? Am I the Narcissist?
NOTE: I will refer to the other person in the “relationship” as the “partner” for this post. I do so to avoid assuming that you are entangled with a coercive controller. If/when you determine that is the case, the words “relationship” and “partner” no longer apply. Coercively controlling abusers are not partners, nor is the situation […]
Coercive Control & Double Speak
I’ve covered Double Speak before, but today I’d like to go into this tactic, commonly used by coercive controllers, in a bit more depth. Double Speak is the Quicksand Model™’s term for the numerous ways that coercive controllers use language to manipulate and deceive others into viewing reality through their distorted lens. Coercive controllers perceive the world, and people […]
Coercive Control & Parental Alienation Awareness Video
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The Quicksand Model® of Coercive Control & Double Team
BioPsychoSocial Quicksand™ is the term I coined for the victim’s experience of coercive control. Coercive control is damaging to our bodies, our brains, our minds and our relationships, and therefore, has negative biological, psychological and social impacts on the target. These negative impacts can become overwhelming, often leaving the target feeling like they are suffocating and […]
The Quicksand Model® of Coercive Control & the Two New Doubles
As I work with more and more clients who have suffered the devastating impacts of coercive control in their “relationships” I have discovered two more doubles that coercive controllers rely upon to prevent their target’s escape from BioPsychoSocial Quicksand™. I have termed them the Double Cross and the Double Team. Today I will cover the Double […]
Announcing The BioPsychoSocial Quicksand Model of Coercive Control (The BPSQM)
UPDATE: June 30, 2024 / The BioPsychoSocial Quicksand Model™ is still based on psychological, social and biological aspects of coercive control, but the name has now been shortened to The Quicksand Model™ As I continue research and consultation with other experts in the fields of coercive control within domestic abuse, cults, extremist groups, human trafficking, gangs, trauma, betrayal trauma and coercive violence, I continually […]
Landmark Coercive Control Suicide Case
The feelings of hopelessness and helplessness caused by coercive control can be overwhelming, anxiety, terror, and depression-inducing, and often result in PTSD or CPTSD. Coercive control can also be life-threatening and life-altering. I have known for a long time that coercive control creates suicidal ideation, because I have experienced it myself many times. Every survivor […]
The PsychoSocial Quicksand Model® of Coercive Control & The Mirage
UPDATE: June 30, 2024 / The PsychoSocial Quicksand Model™ is still based on psychological, social and biological aspects of coercive control, but the name has now been shortened to The Quicksand Model™ The terms victim and target will be used interchangeably to indicate that victims are not to blame, and are most often directly targeted by coercive […]
But he’s turning my children against me, why can’t I call it Parental Alienation Syndrome?
NOTE: This blog is written primarily for victimized mothers of coercive control. The statements within are not intended to imply that mothers are never abusive or coercively controlling, or that fathers are never victimized. Some are. However, the majority of coercive control within families is perpetrated by males against adult females and children, so this […]